Secrets...

 The more I dig the more secrets are revealed. I feel like I'm uncovering something huge! So get ready cause here I come. The more parents I talk to the more things come to light. However, my findings are disturbing. It makes me wonder how these Chicks can sleep at night. I call them "chicks" because they do not deserve to be called women. A woman is a lady, girl, or female. They are neither. A woman can handle her business with self-respect, dignity and be fair; even if she has to put her friends/ coworkers in their place. She carries herself with poise and is graceful. I am a woman! I'm a mother, a wife, a friend and an advocate ( a damn good one, too). I found out that not only does this so called "principal" has hidden or never filed reports but I also found out that she covers for her "friends" if you're not part of her minion crew, you are not protected and they can make your life a living hell! But like I always say what goes up must come down. This time you have over stepped and your minions chose the wrong child, the wrong children! I feel a sense of connection to these children and if you ever took the time out to know the parents of the children you have in your school, you would know how passionate I am when it comes to children.

   

 I have spoken to parents that have had their child's food taken away as punishment and have been treated poorly because their parent(s) made complaints. Faculty that have lied to parents about things that have taken place on trips and faculty that have teamed up on other faculty because they were not on the principals band wagon. Oh the stories I have uncovered... its time for parents and faculty to stand up and report this ill-mannered treatment and take a stand for yourself and your children. Never be afraid of the dark... What's dark always comes to light and if not I don't mind dragging the dark into the light. I'm not afraid of the dark, never was and never will be.

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The Waiting Game

 Today, I finally had a full day that felt closer to our normal routine. I sent a few emails and made a few more calls, but I finally had time to complete other things. We did laundry and played games; my son had a good day. He wasn't worried about being afraid nor being bullied by adults. He had a few great laughs and a tickle party. He makes me happy, all my children do.  Then, I began to think of the other stories I have heard from other parents. Their children have been through similar situations and nothing was done to help the children or parents. I wish I could give them the comfort they deserve and the fearlessness to press on into the unknown. Not knowing what is going to happen tomorrow is difficult, especially having a child with autism. Some children can not explain themselves and can be manipulated while others can defend themselves, but to those parents with children that have autism; Please Don't Give Up! You're doing just fine. Remember your child is just a child that needs love, compassion, security, and patience. You are your child's safe place and you alone is enough; enough to make all bad things go away, enough to make a frown turn into a smile. Enough to protect them, so protect your child and be fearless. You can be a tender loving parent as well as a warrior for you child. I am both! I will never stop fighting for my children. So please parents never be afraid to push forward and be a warrior for your child(ren). As for my son and I, we will wait. Wait for his next meeting and wait for the outcome. I have all the faith that all parties involved will be held accountable and justice will be served, not just for Julius, but for all the other children and parents that has had to deal with certain actions that were unfair in many ways. If not, I will continue to press on until justice is served.

The Meeting...

  Today I had "The Meeting"... I must say that at the beginning of the meeting I was just another mother with a problem. I walked in the office and I was sure that they had the wrong impression of the kind of mother/person I am. However, I proceeded...sat right down and so it began. The meeting was about an hour long and I did most of the talking, my awesome husband did the listening. I talked until my mouth was dry and kept on talking to prove my point because my baby is still suffering from fear, hurt and anger. He's fearful because he felt alone and as a child the world outside of mommy and daddy's safety is scary enough but add on the fear of school staff that know very little about you plus verbal abuse, that's enough to make a child shut down. He's very hurt because the people that are employed to assure his safety and well-being have robbed him from it. He's angry because of what he learn from watching one staff member attack the other. That's not how you run a school, the last time I checked business should never be mixed with pleasure. Save friendships for the weekend because during school hours the principal should be the boss and nothing more.

Till the next meeting... 

Rodents in the building!!!

   What a day I had today... This morning I walked into my sons school and the first thing I seen was a rodent. How disgusting!!! It was in front of the principals door... The irony there was a report stating that the school was dirty and had mouse droppings everywhere. The principal confirmed it during the kindergarten meeting. However it's really unfortunate the Principal's open door policy is prejudice and limited to certain parents. I also met another person from the superintendents under unfortunate circumstances  because I was excorted out the building. I had to signed my son out at exactly noon. I still don't understand why I had to leave. I took my son to school, because neither Julius or I feel he is safe around Ms. L, Ms. V and Ms. T.( you know who you are) I did not see the principal but I know she felt my presents.  I've never dealt with a principal that is so prejudice and bias to parents and staff. Nevertheless my voice will be heard. At the beginning of this situation. I was told it would take a week to resolve that was on June 10th. As a parent I have a right to express my concerns and my concerns should be address without prejudice, instead I got acs sent to my home, staff and a principal that pretended to be oblivious as to why my son was not in school. Since this began I have been in communication with parents that have had many issues with the same three women. It is time that something gets done. My voice is not to be listened to, but heard! I have nothing but time and energy. This is a very serious matter and it will be addressed with the time and patience it deserves. The principal and staff need to seriously be investigated and I will make sure that happens...  

I'm his voice...

If your are following my blog, you will soon realize two things about this blog and myself.

 #1. I'm new at this but I won't give up. I can't just fade away and turn a blind eye to the abuse and mistreatment of our children with autism. No child deserves to be treated poorly and children with autism have this unique innocences. The woman that I've mentioned in my pervious blog have taken that away from my son. He's since been angry, regressed and cries a lot! He feels that school is a bad place. Where some adults are bullies. How can I reassure him that not all schools or people behave like they have? How can I make him feel safe in an environment where people are suppose to show him support and compassion but have robbed him and have been rude, vulgar, insensitive and disrespectful. These woman have teamed up against anyone that has not done as they instructed. They have falsely accused staff members, parents and even children. How can a principal tell a parent " Pick up your animal"? You read that correctly. There will be more stories like mine because I will not stand by and not do nothing. I will be the voice for my child and the other children who have parents that are to afraid to speak up or simply can't out of fear of the unknown. I will be the voice for the children that have yet to enter that school and for the parents that are completely unaware of the things that have been going on for years in that school. No one should ever be allowed to get away with this and I have a feeling that this goes higher up pass the principal because these woman are so manipulative, arrogant and cocky.

I always say "what's dark will come to the light."  Oh I did say two things, right?   # 2. I mean business!!! Detective Mama Bear is on the case. 


To be continued... stay tuned.

Disgusted with P.S. 25

When did it become okay to call ACS on good parents for being concerned about their child's mental wellbeing?

   Let me start off by telling you about myself. I'm a mother of three and my youngest was diagnosed with autism. I resigned from my job which i loved because he needed 24 hours of therapy a week; so my mama bear instinct kicked in. I had to do whatever was necessary to ensure that my child had the proper help to strive as an adult; I'm not gonna live forever. Any way fast forward my son went from a non-verbal child to an extremly talkative five year old.  He's very aware of details and emotionally connected to other peoples feelings.

   On the morning of  June 7th, he was being verbally abused by his school counselor on the school bus. I was never informed until the morning of June 10th by someone that was on the bus. His counselor told him, "If you do not want to get off the bus; you could ROT ON THE BUS!" My first reaction was she should tell me that so I could punch her in the mouth. However I knew that wouldn't help my son ;so I reported her to the principal that did NOTHING! On the morning of June 10th, I was in his school for a different situation that occurred the morning of June 8th. This situation had to do with his teacher being bullied ,harassed and verbally assaulted by the schools IEP personnel (M.L.).
She (IEP personnel) began to attack her (kindergarten teacher) while she had all her students and was holding my son's hand. The IEP personnel called her all kinds of vulgar and derogative names. As a result my five year old came home and began calling his brother a "f***ing cunt" and began saying a bunch of other inappropriate words. I was in shock! Was I hearing things? Did my five year old just call his ten year old brother a "f***ing cunt"? As any mother would I questioned him. I asked him "Where did he hear those words? and Who made it okay for him to repeat them?" His reply was even more shocking.... He simply said "Ms.L ( IEP personnel)" I was beyond upset. Then he spilled the beans and told me what took place that morning and finished is statement with "Ms.V (Counselor) and Ms.L (IEP personnel) are mean bullies!" I reported everything to the superintendent's office because the principal was avoiding me despite her open door policy in school. I waited that Friday morning till 10:45am to see her and I got there at 8:30am, I was told she was in a meeting but she was actually avoiding me. So I waited and waited until she had no choice but to see me. I knew she had to come out her office at some point. During my what felt like a 5 minute meeting I explained to Ms.T (the principal) how my son felt and that the environment was not safe for children with autism. She was more focused on the the fact that he was absent and I explained to her that my son would not be in school until this matter was resolved. We scheduled a meeting for the 15th of June and she changed it without my knowledge and rescheduled it for the 22nd of June. I called and showed up but she refused to see me. She told one of her school aids to tell me that she was in a meeting in her office and that I shouldn't wait for her because she would be having another meeting following that one. As I was on my way out the door to my surprise who did I see standing around doing nothing? Ms.T in her bright red blazer, caked up makeup and all. She turned away as if that would make her invisible to me. I was beyond upset at this point so I called the superintendent's office again, made a new complaint and spoke to the advocate that was already handling this issue. Fast fowarding...

   On Thursday, June 23rd an ill-mannered attendance personnel came to my apartment door handed me a paper and as she walked away; she said two things to me. First was " If you don't like the way Ms. Toledo is running the school you can put your kid somewhere else." Second was "You know Acs is coming for you." As she chuckled and walked out the building. Like the purple hair attendance personnel stated ACS was at my door the very next day.  I knew that was the principals way of trying to shut me up for being the voice that my son needs. But seriously... This is far from over! I've written emails to just about everyone and I've called just about anyone that i could to make complaints and reports. How can she be running a school and be so irresponsible and unfair? She abuses her authority.  I've spoken to some of her ex coworkers and other parents that removed their child(ren) from the Horizon program because she threatened them with acs too but not I. I have nothing to hide!  However it clear to me that she does and I'm not backing down! Not only for my child but for all the other children with autism that are already there and the ones to come. They need a voice and i don't mind being that voice. Parents have a right to ensure that their children are safe especially in school and these children are not. P.S. 25 is not the place that i hoped it would be. However, the Horizon program is amazing, the kindergarten teacher (Mrs. Pagan)  truly care for their students. I've seen first hand how much they do for their students. The program isn't to blame for the three individuals that strong-arm the workers and concerned parents. They simply need to be REPLACED with QUALIFIED caring individuals that know how to treat children with autism.

Just because someone has autism that doesn't make them less of a person and these three women seem to think differently.